A couple days ago I was at my local grocery store. I just needed a few things (and, for that day, wanted to cheat my normal dietary habits a bit), so there wasn’t really an objective so much as it was eye shopping for my “cheat foods”. After turning out of the frozen food aisle, I noticed a small child just walking along, minding his own business. He must have been maybe four years old, tagging along with his mom on a shopping day. I smiled watching, because kids are still pretty darn adorable at that age.
Then inexplicably, he toppled to the floor…hard. Face first onto the floor.
The mother turned quickly and, like any good mother should do, tended to her child asking if he was alright—when he clearly wasn’t—then scooped him up and away to comfort him. All I could do is say to myself, “Poor kid, he was just walking.”
Isn’t that how our life is! You’re walking smoothly one minute, minding your business and just doing life when suddenly without notice you trip up and fall flat on your face. In that regard, you and I aren’t too different from that child. You take a tumble for the worst, even if you have the coordination to, on most days, move smoothly.
The thing that separates you from children though, is that you can recover from that fall on your own. You have the ability to rise.
R: Resist the urge to doubt yourself
The first key for rising from your face-first fall, is to resist the urge to doubt yourself. You might think that because you’ve fallen, you’re completely at fault. You probably, like me, ask yourself a million times why you did what you did, how it happened, and question if it’s worth it because your face hurts. Do you have what it takes? Is it a sound decision? Is it really what God wants?
Save yourself the energy. Fight off the lies that tell you you’re not good enough. Doubly so, kick the doubts to the curb when they refuse what God wants of you. All those whispers are trying to do is detract you from doing impact-filled, worthwhile work—and make you look weak when He is encouraging you with strength.
I: Integrate an intense love
In order to really adopt a sense of renewed spirit, you need to integrate within your goals a real intense love for what you’ve been set to do. And not only that, you need to adopt a love that’s so intense that you don’t just love yourself for it—you love the others who are doing the same as you. You love the people who are rooting for you in your corner, even when you get knocked out once. Love drives you to want to succeed—it gives you a clear reason to get back up.
Thankful that you even got this far after falling to the mat? Send some strong love God’s way for those blessings. Finding the appreciation for what you’re doing from others motivation to continue? Love on the people that are sending that! Realizing that life just isn’t as fun when you’re not doing that passion of yours? Love it even harder!
S: See the lessons
Unlike toddlers, if you’re past the age of learning how to walk; and have a solid grasp on your coordination (for the most part), you have the ability to reevaluate the steps you took. Maybe you were too busy looking around to notice the rock below. Or conversely, maybe you were so busy looking down at the ground to see the tree branch above. There’s always a lesson to be learned after you sink; there’s always a takeaway that will help you later on down the road.
See those lessons for what they are: painful, slightly embarrassing reminders of missteps and mistakes. Then make a mental note—don’t lock it too deep in your heart, that doesn’t help anything—and move on with that knowledge in mind. You’re always learning. You’re always a student.
E: Engage with renewed confidence
After all that; after you have fought off your inner doubts, adopted an intense love, and understood the takeaways from the lessons of life, there’s really only one thing left to do. Engage in your actions with renewed confidence!
Tell yourself that it was necessary to fall, even though it sucked. Let God say in your ear, “You can and you will because it’s what I have planned for you.”
“31He then began to teach them that the Son of Man must suffer many things and be rejected by the elders, the chief priests and the teachers of the law, and that he must be killed and after three days rise again. 32He spoke plainly about this…”-Mark 8:31-32 (NIV)
Real talk, Jesus doesn’t say “maybe I’ll rise”, or say it weakly with something like “I hope,” or “we’ll see”. He straight up speaks plainly and says He will rise again. He says it with confidence, knowing He will die—the ultimate fall to the ground moment.
Falling is a part of all of our lives. It happens, it will happen, and it will continue to happen, even when we have the intentions to prevent it from happening.
But when you fall, you are obliged to rise. You can. And you will.
Written by: Michael “Bboy Roach1” Roach
See previous article: Falling with Style